Yet there are universal themes and issues within our exposure(s) that are common to us all. For Example, we each Emerge from family groups, Interact with others in the population and Learn.
Some thrive from their experiences, others fail. Most have mixed results.
How well we fare can easily be affected by basic training, or pro-active exposure.
But how are we normally prepared in practice to address the life challenges we will encounter?
One might suppose it to be in the home. Adults immerse children in their prevailing Culture, Values and Perspectives as they see fit.
Certainly, this is a hit-and-miss process; dependent on the skills, intellect, commitment and awareness of the adults involved. This, plus the overwhelming expectation(s) of the culture in-play.
So, from the earliest age we are fated to deal with generic (and predictable) classes of problems but are each armed quite differently.
And all this occurs during formative development.
Predictably we get a rich diversity of personalities emerging from these early years.
At one stage these individuals may be moldable clay but ultimately will inevitably become largely fixed in Personality, View and Beliefs.
This is the whole, “give me a child until (s)he is seven and I will show you the (wo)man,” scenario and theory (a la Aristotle).
The specific age by, or strength to which an individual might be cast is not the point in this Blog.
The issue is WHAT might we learn and WHEN to best position ourselves to embrace our later life?
Some individuals must learn troubling lessons early: to address (say) extreme safety and survival issues. That is not the majority, however.
Growing up in an industrial, western-style culture there are simple lessons that can commonly provide solid foundations for most individuals.
If we look across the personalities and skills of typical people we encounter there appear common themes of challenges we will all need to address in life and where some basic knowledge gleaned beforehand would be most helpful.
For Example, I believe most people would benefit from basic training in or exposure to what is a reasonable expectation of behavior in:
- Groups (Familial, Social, Educational and Work)
- Personal and Partner Relationships
Certainly, if you didn’t know what to expect, you’re liable to tolerate the UNreasonable, to the detriment of yourself and ultimately, others you will influence.
In addition, I’ve seen many people who would clearly have benefitted by exposure to and awareness of:
- How To Study
- Common Medical issues
- Mental Health
Again, if you have no exposure to things you will encounter there are no guarantees you (or others you influence) will manage the challenges well.
The more people I meet the more it’s apparent that few received such guidance or training. And the lack of exposure is normally detrimental.
Leaving individuals devoid of such (Examples, above) knowledge and preparedness seems like sending untrained soldiers out to war. Predictably, things will commonly not end well.
It is not a matter for this brief BLOG to identify exactly WHAT exposure should be given, WHEN or HOW; rather the purpose is to flag the dearth of obviously important preparedness.
I am certain that exposure to, awareness of just such example basic elements (Groups, Relationships, Study, Medical and Mental, listed above) would have saved many people I have personally observed from needless disasters, pain, misdirection and grief.
Equally I believe that we have each stumbled through related issues; even when we considered ourselves to have overcome such obstacles we are often merely soldiering on with deeply flawed, self-delusions.
And, we all influence others. Our resultant false impressions and beliefs are foisted upon the unaware and unprotected.
We infect family, friends, acquaintances and colleagues with our adopted Cultural, Belief and Value systems.
Are there lessons you failed to pass along? Are there life-lessons you still have not really learned; do you see warning signs?
Take a close look at your own preparedness and what might still be learned. Significant changes may be essential for your long-term well-being and any level of self-awareness achieved is a great beginning