In life we frequently come across those who need assistance.
These can be people we know well or folks wholly unknown to us. We see such needs at work, home and in the street; indeed, almost everywhere we look.
It’s generally accepted we should help those in need. I believe that in many ways our ability to offer help actually defines our humanity.
So when do we offer our assistance? Certainly, opportunities exist as others are Failing; this may be Physically, Emotionally, Financially or, perhaps they’re just not getting things done.
Next, consider the question of why we help others. Often we are motivated to:
Resolve a Problem Situation
Bond or Rebuild relationship(s)
Show Willingness
End Suffering
Improve Ourselves
Expand Awareness
Teach
And, so on
These goals are both diverse and frequently interdependent. They represent generous and also sometimes self-serving purpose(s). The intermingling of our objectives and motivations is almost inevitable.
And yet, when assistance is rendered wisely, it should rarely be perceived overtly Machiavellian.
It is greatly important how we render assistance. Generally it’s wise to do so with no:
Expectation of Repayment
Taint of Condescension or Charity
Coming to the aid of others in an appropriate manner is a personally healthy practice. It’s typically indicative of a good life-style balance, perspective and self-confidence. Certainly it can demonstrate sensitivity, consideration and the abilities to both empathize and sympathize as applicable.
For those recipients, discrete and more invisible action and assistance is usually most appreciated.
And remember, not everybody truly wants our help. So, be open and willing to back-off gracefully
Eventually, we all need help. At some time, place and in a particular circumstance the best of us are laid low and need an outstretched hand. This is seemingly one of life’s certainties.
So, are you rendering the service to others that you might? Have you offered the assistance that you should?
Take a look at your Work, Home and general Environment. There are invariably situations where you should step-in. Consider the opportunity; why not give it a try.
Ian R. Mackintosh is the author of Empower Your Inner Manager Twitter @ianrmackintosh