When it really matters, you choose your mood. At some level, everybody does.
We put on the face/front for that meeting, party or social event. We are already choosing our demeanor.
And, given a level of commitment and practice we can similarly start, or reset each day to the tone we’d most prefer.
Rather than drag ourselves out of bed and run into the turmoil of the day we can set ourselves up for a happy daily entre and even recover crisply from (seemingly inevitable) emergent setbacks.
Most folks carry around their personal, “bucket of troubles.” It seems we all choose how many woes and problems we’ll take on.
Some carry larger buckets than others; that’s a choice. And then, we allow those buckets to fill till they spill over. Only in this way do we limit what we take on.
By analogy, the larger the bucket, the heavier is the load. The weight (burden) is determined by what we are prepared to accept.
What if we simply chose not to allow deposits into that bucket? Just shrug things off (responsibly), don’t let them weigh in immediately and only fully embrace troubles when we choose.
Simply put, take on the issue later when preferred and only drop a note to address the problem into the bucket, for now. (SIDE NOTE: truly immediate issues are just that, so act accordingly. But, most things are not).
This doesn’t mean we ignore problems, concerns or issues. It does mean we should not burden ourselves with unknowns until we’re ready to focus.
Such an approach is truly Zen-like. We should “eat when we eat,” just attending to that of immediate concern to us. In this case, it is the simple, need-to-address–later note.
This unburdens us nicely. No rapid-fill of that bucket.
We might even soon learn to reduce that bucket’s size as our skills develop. Why leave room to potentially unnecessarily burden ourselves with things we often can’t address till later, anyway?
Buckets weigh us down. Similarly, balloons can buoy us up. So why not carry a few of those around?
Happy thoughts, good news all serve to lighten our footsteps.
We begin each day with a host of blessings to enjoy. Our relationships, work, family, friends, even possessions can boost happiness, enjoyment and self-worth.
So, reflect on a few of these positives to start each day and renew yourself throughout. Carry a few happy balloons around and offset the weight of that essential bucket.
Realistically, we cannot expect to exist in a bed of roses on a flat, stable and worry-free plane. Yet too much volatility in our ups and downs is ultimately wearing, dulls our judgement, exhausts the ability to enjoy life and often harms our health.
Daily routines and encounters can be a grind. Things can wear on us and beat us down.
Life is not all smiles, happiness and positive events. It’s pretty tough for everyone. We need to both reduce our burdens and lighten our steps. So, a handful of balloons and a less substantial bucket can serve us well.
How is life wearing on you? Need to downsize that bucket and lighten the load?
Make life more enjoyable: every morning grab a few balloons, choose a smaller bucket and enthusiastically greet the coming day.
Ian R. Mackintosh is the author of Empower Your Inner Manager Twitter @ianrmackintosh